Pyjama Surfing

I'm writing a regular (monthly) column for the Spanish-language site, Pijama Surf - the first piece is on "Why We still Need Gurus."

The original English version of this piece is linked at the bottom of the article.

May Day's Marital Advice for the Shipwrecked

your partner is your mirror

getting away from the mirror for a time can be healing - and necessary - for both when the pressure and pain of the cooker gets too great.

but thinking that it will be ANY DIFFERENT with a new mirror is a mistake

marriage is when you commit to not changing the mirror, no matter how awful what you see there

when i found out, really found out, that i wasn't going to get what I, my little wounded lower self - wanted, i was ready to bail

but where was i gonna go?

after all the illusions die, that's when relationship really begins

when the ship of alchemical marriage is sinking it's because there was an agreement to go all the way into the depths together

my marital advice is: burn all lifeboats, and prepare to sink